Call of the Wild Workout Posse

Since Breast Cancer made me into a worker-outer, I spend quite a bit of time at the YMCA getting and staying buff! At the beginning of the year, my Workout Posse (Robbie & Katie- BFFs forever!) and I signed up for the The Trek: Call of the Wild Challenge put on by our very own Caleb Johnson (our LiveStrong Buddy!).
For the past couple months, we have been tracking our workouts in hopes to complete our 20 hour Trek. It was hard work but we all made it! Way to go us!!!

Here's what the information the Y sent out:

Stay active this winter and you could WIN!
GRAND PRIZE = $3,000 Vacation Package
This fitness challenge is designed to keep you motivated to stay active during the harsh winter by recording a virtual trek across the Yukon in search of gold!

Through your own strenuous efforts, you can retrace the journeys of Jack London or Martha Black. Jack London, the author of The Call of the Wild, was inspired from his 1887-1898 journey for gold in the Yukon. Martha Black, a determined pioneer and business women, journeyed the Yukon in 1899 in search for wealth and adventure. The trail will be challenging, but with a little grit and perseverance, you yourself will be inspired, find adventure, and strike it rich with prizes and improved wellness.

WHAT ARE THE PRIZES?

PARTICIPANT PRIZES: Prize #1: Travel bag
Prize #2: Dry Fit Shirt      

GRAND PRIZE:
$3,000 VACATION PACKAGE -
Choose Your Own Destination!

ADDITIONAL FINISHER DRAWINGS: $50.00 Gift Cards

HOW DOES IT WORK? After registering an d submitting the $25.00 entry fee, each participant will receive an official map of The Call of the Wild. Participants will choose ONE of two possible routes and have eight weeks to perform 20 or 30 hours (depending on route chosen) of aerobic activity to complete the Trek. For every 15 minutes of aerobic activity you complete between January 11 – March 8 you will earn ¼ mile. As you progress through your journey, you will be rewarded with individual prizes at specific check points and will also be eligible for the Grand Prize Drawing and additional finisher drawings upon completion.

CHOOSE ONE ROUTE: The Dyea Route (Jack London) (20 hours) is the basic route that will qualify participants for the participant prizes and the grand prize drawing. For the exerciser in search of a challenge, the Skagway Route (Martha Black) (30 hours) adds 10 additional hours to the Trek. Upon completion of the Skagway route, you will qualify for additional gift card drawings to celebrate your heroic efforts.

Please Note: Although you do not need to be a YMCA member to join, participation in this challenge does not include a YMCA membership or access to the YMCA for participants who are not members.

For more information, please contact Caleb Johnson, Healthy Living Director at 701.356.1447 or caleb.johnson@ymcacassclay.org.

P.S. Robbie won a couple extra things at the end. Fun for her!!

Feeling Unspectacular and Unanswered Prayers

It's been a rough couple of weeks for me emotionally. I'm sure it's partly a Winter Blues issue but it's also an "angry at cancer" thing. I should start out by saying that I will probably be struck by lightning for my bad attitude since I have been blessed more than my fair share through this past year. But regardless of my fear of being fried to a crisp by 300 kilovolts---these past few weeks I have had a hard time not focusing on all the things cancer has robbed me of and the frustration of unanswered prayers.

As most of you know, my family had big plans to have a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Long story short... Cancer robbed us of that! Many have said that perhaps giving us that opportunity was the only way that we would have found the Cancer in time. But I can't agree. There was lots of other things that could have happened to help us "discover" the cancer. I wish I could say that I understand why they would say that but we had prayed so long & so hard and had turned the issue completely over to God and everything was starting to fall into place when we were diagnosed. I know without any doubt that God had told us to go. Even after the diagnosis, we prayed with open hearts (although heavy at the time) that if this was all for finding out about the cancer that we would give it up. But time and time again more things fell into place. Then after EIGHT long months of continuing down the path we felt we were directed to go-- CANCER made our Dream and Big Adventure over. Why?? What happened to all the answers to prayers we felt we had received and how do I get past that???

I am NOT doing a very good job, I'll tell you that. I have tried to make CANCER my new Adventure. After my diagnosis, I worked hard on making it a positive experience for our family and having some fun along the way. It worked for a while. But after finding out we were staying stateside, I really don't see the point. My point was to beat the cancer and then go on an amazing Adventure. But NO!!!!!!!! Instead, I may never even get out of Fargo! {Where it  feels like Winter 11 months of the year!!!} Grrrr! While we were fighting our way through chemo and surgery, we passed up opportunities to go other places because we were sure that Bogota was where God wanted us. And now we don't have any clue where we should go or where God even wants us. None of our prayers seem answered as of late. I actually torture myself by having the temperature for these other places on my iPod. I check it every morning. [I know it's pathetic but that's how I roll these days] So like this morning at 7:30 am when it read- SLC: 39 degrees, Helena: 43 degrees, Bogota: 54 degrees, Fargo: -6 freezin' degrees- I almost wanted to swear. You gotta be kidding me!!! "WHY do I live here????" has become a question I ask myself a zillion times a day lately! What is the purpose of me being stuck in this frozen place?

In the past couple weeks, I also started reading a few Cancer blogs- perhaps for a little sympathy or to get some perspective. That has backfired! One blog was such a fun-loving positive blog. I felt like I connected to her words and her spirit but then she died suddenly! A complication from the drugs or something. Man! Cancer sucks! Another lady has made her cancer diagnosis into a business. She started a foundation and travels all over the world promoting awareness and making a zillion friends. So... I pretty much hate her! LOL A few have posts about how family and friends rallied and threw big, huge fund raisers in their behalf to help them offset their medical bills. Did I need that? No. Brett and I worked really hard for the last several years to save for a rainy day. We were prepared!  Does that change the fact that it hurts my feelings a little that no one did that for me. You bet. Cancer sucks! Most of the cancer blogs that I read have tons of followers. At the conclusion of each post, a handful of friends leave comments and words of encouragement. Me? I'm not sure that anyone reads mine at all. Guess that's my unspectacular cancer life. Oh well! Two other blogs I read are of women who are on their SECOND time through cancer. Both did drastic measures to "take care" of it the first time but years later, it's back and it's fatal. What the.....ll?? Cancer SUCKS!!!!!

So what is the purpose of all this dramatic and pathetic whining?? I don't really know. But that would be a really sucky way to end a post.
So... the other day on a most unspectacular day of mine, my little family was doing some scripture study when we came across this quote. I have a bit of a love/hate relationship with it but I am trying to make it speak to my heart. Perhaps by typing it here it will sink in a little.

"Not everyone is going to be .... fill in the blank with some important responsibility. Not all are going to be like ...fill in the blank with some more-than-amazing leader... catching the acclaim all day every day. No, most will be quiet, relatively unknown folks who come and go and do their work without fanfare. To those of you who may find that lonely or frightening or just unspectacular, I say you are "no less serviceable" than the most spectacular of your associates. You, too, are part of God's army."- Howard W Hunter

So is that my answer???? Who cares if Cancer sucks, Shay? Who cares if you use all your savings to pay off your medical bills? Who cares if you want to leave this crappy, freezing place??? Who cares if you are boobless and have a really ugly hairdo? Who cares if you feel like your life is NOT the Adventure you want it to be? Just be serviceable, woman!!!!! Is that my answer?? ..... Perhaps.

P.S. As I was being my whiney, pathetic, unspectacular self these last couple weeks, I did receive this email from an old friend. Funny how people can do/send things when they have no idea how much it will mean to someone. Thanks, Heather! You'll never know how much I needed it! XOXO

I was checking out your blog today.  (It has been awhile since I was on.) I am truly amazed by your out look and attitude.  You have always been an inspiration to me and I miss talking and sharing with you.  I have thought and prayed a lot for you and your family.  I am truly blessed for this experience.  I know it can't be easy and life is difficult on its own, then to add such an illness makes it more difficult. I hope you know of my love for you and that I miss you terribly.  Thank you for sharing your journey, I love hearing about it.  You have a great sense of humor and it is always entertaining to read.
Keep your chin up and know that you are loved,  Heather Parry

YMCA Commercial

After Robbie and I graduated from Livestrong, the Y asked for comments about our experience with the YMCA and the Livestrong Program. I was in my "angry at the world" mode of life, so I didn't feel I had anything worth saying. Robbie on the other hand, had very nice things to say and sent them in. As a result, her and her family were picked as the local Y Family. I'm so excited for them! The honor comprised many things including a photo shoot that landed them on the Cover of the new Spring/Summer Program Guide (their story is on page 3) and being featured in a YMCA commercial. How cool is that?
What does this have to do with MY cancer journey? Well,  part of her comments included things about me and how she started coming to support me. AND because of that, they asked if I would be willing to be part of some of the filming. So today, I met Robbie downtown at the Fercho Y to shoot a YMCA Commercial. LOL first, we met the Y staff and the film crew. Then headed upstairs.
We started out in our Zumba class. They had to have everyone sign a waiver in case they got in the shot. It was a LARGE class so it caused quite the excitement. It's always an upbeat class but you bring in a film crew and the energy jumps through the roof. Too funny! Then, we danced while they filmed. I think they mostly shot Robbie but I was standing next to her so maybe I'll be in there? We only did a couple songs then slipped out to go downstairs.
Down in the weight room, they filmed us doing some exercises on the arm and leg machines. We also both did a few reps for our biceps in the same shot. Our next filming op was on the treadmills. I even did a little running just to show off.  Go me! We finished our time together by doing a few exercises with Katelyn. It was fun to have us all back together for a bit! It was so hilarious to have the camera man walk around us and zoom up close. I obviously have a smaller "personal space bubble" than I thought. LOL But it was still a fun Adventure to do together.
Thanks for letting me be a part of it, Robbie. You have been an awesome friend through this journey of mine. I will never be able to repay you and your family for your kindness. Luv ya, lady!
They continued to film Robbie and her family doing other things around the facilities but we made sure we got a picture to remember our experience. (Hopefully, I can link the commercial when they get it all done!) But, here's us with our film crew for the day. Thanks to the Y for the opportunity to be a part of your great program!

3rd Annual SUPPORT THE GIRLs Fundraiser

I received an email a while back from Lisa V, one of the Breast Friends Support Group founders asking for volunteers for their annual fundraiser. I haven't gone to the group much and am not planning on going to the conference that the fundraiser is helping pay for so wasn't sure if I wanted to go. But I'm always looking for some kind of Adventure to blog about. LOL
I ended up signing up to help at the admission table for a couple hours. Then I called KBro and begged (OK... Maybe I didn't quite make it to the begging stage) her to come with me. It's been a long time since we have had a Cancer Date together so she agreed. Yeah!
It was a windy, freezing' night but after stopping by the bar (oops! Wrong place) and making our own parking space close to the Speedway Event Center door, we braved the temp to make it inside. It was fun to see people I recognized. First, KBro and I checked out the place- all the silent auction tables, the Boobie Shop, the raffle drawing table and the food. Then, we got a quick training on our duties for the evening. It was our job to sit at the table by the front door, visit, smile, welcome people and collect money. We were awesome at it!

While we were there, I bid on a couple of things, bought a raffle ticket, and got a few fun things at the Boobie Shop. I love themed things!! How cute are these things?

We also got to eat a bite of dinner and listen to the Front Fenders band! And we were even out of there before everyone got sloshed. (There was a bar in the corner) When we finished up our shift, we went out to Applebee's afterwards. I always love hanging out and chatted with my best Fargo girlfriend. With her youngest (but not for long LOL) in school we haven't hung out as much as we have in the past. I didn't realize how much I've missed her. Thanks lady for joining me in my cancer adventure this evening. You're awesome!!

Oh.... The next day, I got a call to say I had won one of the Silent Auction baskets.  Lucky day! Someone dropped it off to me. It's full of BC-themed items! So fun!

Support the Girls Program for the evening:

No Lumps, Thank You. Cancer Book

My good friend,Teri Z. gave me an awesome Christmas gift. It's a book called No Lumps, Thank You. She even got me a signed copy of it. So cool!
Thanks lady!!!! I love it!

A little bit about the book---
There are a couple local ladies here in Fargo that have written a book about Breast Cancer. One is a photographer and the other is a motivational Breast Cancer Surviving speaker. I actually met one of them (Kim Wagner) at the Hope Soars Picnic back in September. Their website is here: http://nolumpsthankyou.com/index2.php#/home/

Here's their story from a local newspaper article:

Meg Spielman Peldo, daughter of a Hollywood Vassarette lingerie designer in the 1950s, has become a brassiere-maker in her own right.
But instead of cotton, satin and lace, she’s used pancakes, maracas and pomegranates to create artsy undergarments.
The Fargo-based fine-art and portrait photographer spent years conceptualizing and shooting a series of “art bras” formed with flowers, plants, grasses, fruits and vegetables, stones, sea glass, buttons and other objects.
Spielman’s book, “No Lumps, Thank You: A Bra Anthologie,” combines 30 of her imaginative images with lighthearted humor to help raise money for breast cancer charities.
“No Lumps,” released Sept. 28, was inspired by The Hotel Donaldson’s annual Bras on Broadway fundraiser.
The project began with the wearable bird’s-nest bra Spielman made for downtown Fargo’s first Bras on Broadway six years ago. Her “breast nests” were so well received, she wondered what good she could do with a book.
“That’s why I have the book, because of Bras on Broadway,” she says.
Spielman submitted a proposal along with three images to a few publishers, and a week later she got a call.
Stories and laughsThe special edition of “No Lumps, Thank You” includes stories from 53 regional breast cancer survivors collected by Fargo writer and speaker Kim Wagner, who was undergoing treatment herself while she was doing interviews.
“This book is full of funny anecdotes and personal reflections from strong, gutsy, amazing women. It was an honor to jot down their stories and be a part of it,” Wagner says.
She says talking to other women who were going through the same things was therapeutic.
“I never liked the idea that it’s a ‘journey’ or a ‘battle,’ but it was nice to know that so many of us could commiserate and say we’ve been there,” says Wagner, who was diagnosed with Stage 3 breast cancer last summer.
Contributors range in age from their early 20s to their 70s and 80s.
“This is not a team that we would ever volunteer to be on, and yet it really is a marvelous conglomerate of young and old,” she says.
Proceeds from the special edition will go to Sanford Health’s Embrace Cancer Survivorship Program.
“What we have learned through that program is how important other breast cancer survivors are to each other as far as their healing, because they have the most poignant tips and tricks for each other to get through that difficult journey,” says Dr. Shelby Terstriep, medical oncologist at Sanford’s Roger Maris Cancer Center in Fargo.
She says the blurbs included in the book address everything she and her staff hear from their patients on a day-to-day basis.
“We’ve already had someone at the beginning of her cancer journey comment on how helpful it was to read other people’s stories. That’s the kind of impact we want to have on people,” Terstriep says.
Spielman’s playful touch is meant to make a difficult time a little bit easier.
“I hope it offers encouragement and it shows compassion and laughter. It’s supposed to be light-hearted, and I think we achieved that,” Wagner says of the book

What a fun tribute to those fighting Breast Cancer here in Fargo. So fun to have a copy!

LiveStrong Celebration

It took one amazing LiveStrong Leader, a couple different reservations, and a few date changes but we finally managed to get our whole LiveStrong group {well... almost! All except for someone who got purposely left at home. LOL} together for a Celebration! Yeah! I always love an excuse for a ParTay! We met at HuHot for dinner. We got the "HuHot for Dummies" rundown from the waiter (LOL) so we could enjoy an amazing dinner with even more amazing friends! 

Let's "Start Here"---

My fun LiveStrong Friends-

Top: Denise, Shay, Brett. Bottom L: Nicole, Katelyn, Caleb. Bottom R: Matt, Jennifer, Robbie

Next, our group wanted to do something special for Katelyn as a thank you for all she has done for us. With the help of my very creative Hubby, we came up with a very clever letter which turned into a pretty awesome thank you gift. All the BOLDED words were bought and put into a package for her. We're pretty funny! Luv ya, Katelyn!

There were other gifts given as well.
1- I gave all the ladies one of my HOPE Ornaments for Christmas. Hopefully a little reminder of me and the fact that whatever craziness there is in our individual lives, there is always HOPE!
2- Robbie & I have had this personal joke since we began LiveStrong. Her and I decided that since both of us hate to sweat that as long as we were working out together that we would "Glow" not sweat! LOL So she made us all these keychains that say, "You GLOW Girl!" How fun is that?
3- Katelyn also gave us all a present. Yeah for presents!!!! Inside our gift bag, we found a few calendars & fun brads to keep track of our continued Work-out sessions. We love them! Thanks lady!

We ended the night with some yummy cake pops made by our amazing leader and a chance to be a little silly one last time! I'm so sad that our time together is over but what a fun Adventure we have shared! Thanks friends! And good luck in your continued, healthy life! Chow!

Yeah for LiveStrong!

It's a Small World!

My Breast Cancer World just got a little smaller today. 

I was out crafting/quilting at my friend's like I always am on Thursdays. On my way home, I felt impressed to call an old friend of mine (she's not old, we've just known each other for a long time LOL). I haven't talked to her in probably over a year. I wasn't even sure if her phone number would work but I tried anyways. It shocked me when not only was it the right number but she actually answered!!! She asked if we were still in Fargo and then it hit me that she didn't have any clue of the events of my last year. Not the move, then the diagnosis, then the surgery, then the non-move. Crazy year! So I begin to sum it up for her in a very brief explanation. [I know... you don't think I know how to be brief] When I got to the diagnosis she stopped me and said, "Who has breast cancer?" When I repeated that it was ME, she informed me that SHE had a bilateral mastectomy 3 days ago. What???? Insane! She was diagnosed with breast cancer a month ago. Dangit! I think she's still in the "I don't believe you that everything is going to be ok" stage. But I am so glad that I followed the prompting to call and check on her. Wow! How small the world can become at times! Good Luck in your fight, lady! We'll be praying for you! Call me ANYtime you need someone to vent to. Whether it's about grenades sucking things from your sides,  stitches, stinky drugs or anything else your adventure brings your way! Luv ya!

Tiff and I in 2008

Black Friday Zumba

Ever since our LiveStrong group tried out Zumba, we've been hooked! Except for my Herceptin treatments, we Zumba every Friday! It's so much fun! Katie started coming with us as well and a few ladies from the 1st ward go regularly on Fridays. Not to mention we've made a few friends that we see all the time. It's quite a party group we got! Love it! 

The Y Instructor that we love is Shelle Moran. She likes to call her class- Shake it with Shelle Zumba! And there's a reason for that. We lovingly call her the energizer bunny! She is so spunky and full of energy. And we do a LOT of shaking! LOL We like to pretend that the way she Zumbas is how we actually look when WE do it! That's not the reality but we have good imaginations. :) 

Today, Shelle threw a Black Friday Zumba Party! There was glow necklaces, streamers, lights and a drawing after every song for a prize. It was way fun! Katie even won a DVD! Wahoo! {Robbie was a slacker and didn't set her alarm. Stinker!- We missed you, lady} After class, we all posed for a picture. And you know how happy that pictures make me. It was my lucky day!!!

Here's my cute Zumba class making our "gansta" faces and just being awesome! 

Embrace: Bottles of Hope

Every time I have been up to the Roger Maris Cancer Center, I have seen this cute little bottle display on the wall. Although I have adored it from afar, I don't think I've ever stopped by and figured out what they were because it's down the hall where the nurses come to pick you up for your appointment. By the time you've spent your fair share of time in the waiting room and the nurse finally calls you back and weighs you, looking at clay bottles (despite how cute they are) on the wall isn't you're priority.  Until... today! I was actually checking in for my 10th Herceptin drip when they had a little promotion for them on the check-in desk. I read it and it sparked my interest. The nurse told me that I was welcome to pick one out. What? You mean I get to have one???? Holy cow! Awesome! Add that to my list of Cancer perks!!! LOL

Bottles of Hope are glass medicine bottles decorated with polymer clay and given to cancer patients as a sign of hope and comfort. You can join us in making and giving these bottles to Sanford cancer patients. It’s easy and everyone is welcome!

Bottles of Hope – Join Us in Inspiring Cancer Patients

The Bottles of Hope project was started in 1999 by Diane Gregoire, a cancer survivor and polymer clay artist in Rhode Island. It has since spread internationally and is a meaningful, easy way to help bring comfort and hope to patients as they undergo cancer therapy.
“I was actually getting a chemo treatment at the Woman and Infant's Breast Health Center and playing with my clay. On the days of getting TAXOL I was there for 6 to 7 hours every week, and I noticed that the nurses threw away tons of small, glass medication bottles,” Diane writes on her website. “After making sure they were non-toxic, I took some home, covered them with clay and made tops for them. When I brought them back in for the nurses, they loved them and so did some of the patients who saw me making them. They seemed fascinated with the clay and the colors, and for a while, they made people forget where they were. I started giving them away to the friends I had made at the center and called them "Wish Bottles."
Diane had no idea how a simple act would inspire thousands of patients around the world, including patients at the Sanford Roger Maris Cancer Center in Fargo and the Sanford Cancer Center in Sioux Falls.
“I told my friends to just make a wish, write it down and put it in the bottle, and it would come true. I don't know why, but we all just believed this... maybe because we just wanted to, or that it was something to hold on to. It brought together - for one moment - women sharing pain without having to speak about it,” Diane writes.
The bottles are cleaned, covered with clay and can be sculpted, textured, blended or stamped to create unique pieces of art. Then they are baked and can be painted. Each bottle is an individual expression of hope and love and are gifted to Sanford patients. Cancer patients can also make Bottles of Hope for themselves and others.
To learn more about how you can participate, call (605) 328-6050 or (701) 234-7587.

I was so excited to pick one! Let me tell you though. It's not as easy as it sounds. There are so many to choose from. I spent my entire time until the nurse came to get me trying to pick one out. Even then I decided to think about it and choose one after my appointment. Seriously- I could have taken 4 or 5 home if they would have let me! There was some really fun red ones- cuz RED is my favorite color, you know. There was some ones that I thought would look good in my china hutch in the front room. There were some red, white and blue ones.... do I need to say why those would be great?? LOL Some had the cutest HOPE word stamped on them. And a couple had some pink on them but non that called my name. Decisions. Decisions.

So after picking up tons of them, this is the one I choose. I love it because it looks like the bottle is being all wrapped up in a cozy blanket. Something every Cancer patient needs! ;) Second, it was the only one that had a few "fancy" things added to it. [even if they are just tiny beads] That's so me-- take the idea and add a little flare. Luv it! Finally, it's a beautiful rainbow. Fitting for my wish! I HOPE it serves as a reminder that THIS (cancer) won't ever happen again! ;) I LOVE it!!!! Thanks you, Embrace!

FM Breast Cancer Walk

Even with my "little" bit of Cancer, I wanted to figure out how to be part of the Breast Cancer Survivor Family. Well, it just so happened that up at the YMCA, they recently started promoting the  

http://fmbreastcancerwalk.org/

"Walkers will unite to raise awareness and funds for those affected by breast cancer, whether as a survivor or supporter. This three-mile walk will begin and end at West Acres Shopping Center." The proceeds from the Walk benefit LiveSTRONG at the YMCA and the Breast cancer Research Foundation. 

I am so grateful for the opportunity of participating in the LiveSTRONG program that I decided I wanted my family to be a part of the Walk. So we signed us up!

Of course, our family is always up for "Festive" dressing. Today was no different! We got PINK shirts as part of the Walker's fee but we also wore pink hats, pink shoelaces, Breast Cancer earrings, a pink Beauty Queen sash, pink boas and pink ribbon face tattoos  How cute are we??? We were told by one of the photographers that we were the best dressed family there! Modesty aside... I know! ;)

As soon as we signed in, found the Stephens (thanks guys for doing this with us!) and got our T-shirts, the kids ran to find Katelyn. They adore her! We took the chance to snap a picture with her. Oh my heavens- we are a good-lookin' crew!

Along with taking of our own pictures, there were a few Radio Stations at the Event. A couple of them took pictures of our group or family. We even made it onto the Popster 104.7fm website. Fun! Check us out here under "Loving Dad's Pink Hat" and "Mother's Day Crafts": 

http://www.1047popsterfm.com/powergallery/galleries/grid_lightbox/index.php?gallery=49;theme=light

We got to the Event a little early so we could "enjoy a variety of activities including games, stroller decorating, frame and button making, posing with your friend and family at our photo booth", and getting treats! The kids had a blast!

We tried to meet up with our LiveSTRONG buddies to get a group shot. Katelyn had to go out for the opening ceremony so we let her skip out. Caleb was M.I.A. as usual. LOL Nicole was at a Viking game with her boyfriend. Kiona was still sleeping. Jennifer never picked up her phone (good job, lady! LOL) but we did find Denise! Go Denise! So here's the group shot we got! I absolutely LOVE it! We are so funny!

http://www.memories-online.net/BreastCancerWalk2012 password: YMCA

Then it was time for the FM Breast Cancer Walk to begin! We went out for the end of the Opening Ceremony. They had a Survivor share her story and then we were off! Everyone walked through the archway decorated by Bras on Broadway and headed down the route. Our little group was the back of the pack. Partly because the boys were playing football in the Mall parking lot beforehand and mostly because we are very slow walkers! OR we could blame it on the 6 children. Whichever works for you! Joshua just said it was cuz we are "UNIQUE". LOL I love it! We did meet up with Denise somewhere along the trail so we got to cross the finish line with her and take a picture of all of us! Way to go, everyone! Awesome job!

Being the Walker caboose didn't have all disadvantages. Somehow we missed the sign directing us to the "shorter" version of the walk. Oops! So we decided to blaze our own trail aka "make up our own shortcuts" along the way. We cut across a couple fields and a playground. LOL It worked out good though cuz the little ones were dragging by the end and Robbie's feet were thanking us for shortening the trail!

Along the Walk route, we snapped a shot by a TEAM SHAY sign they had put up for the event! How fun! We even got to bring the sign home afterwards. Thanks again to the Stephens for participating with us! It was way fun to spend time with you! You guys are awesome friends!

Here's our cute PINK, Breast Cancer shoelaces! So fun!

Last but certainly NOT least, I had to share some pictures I got with my LiveSTRONG buddies! First, Robbie has been such an amazing Cancer Supporter for me. She has been there every step of the way. Thanks lady! Sure luv ya! You are awesome! Next, Denise walked in a Cancer Walk yesterday so she didn't think she'd make it to this one but at the last minute decided to come. I'm so glad she did! Robbie, Denise and I got to take a picture with BOB. So funny! Denise is such a great woman and a fellow Breast cancer Survivor! We got to chat quite a bit about our treatments while we walked. (She got to do part of her treatment in Hawaii!!! So fun for her but totally not fair! LOL) Then, just as we were leaving (in fact we were all in the van and I ran back in to get my TEAM SHAY sign), I ran into Jennifer and Denise. We decided to find Katelyn and grab a picture. AND get this--- Caleb was actually there! It's a miracle! So we got a fun group shot! The Cancer Survivors and our Trainers. How awesome is that????

What a fun day! I'm so glad we decided to participate! Thanks to Katelyn and all the YMCA staff that put in all the hard work to organized the Event. We loved it!
More of of Katelyn's Livestrong Pictures: https://plus.google.com/photos/111503550070915712854/albums/5785086979850704113?banner=pwa

Party in Pink

Back in  May, I went to my first meeting with the FM Breast Friends Support Group. It was a good experience but then... life diagnosed with breast cancer happened. I haven't been able to make it back until now. Tonight, Shawn Roehrich (Justice's last year teacher) picked me up and we headed uptown to the the HoDo Restaurant for a Party in Pink. The FM/BF group won a party at last year's Bras on Broadway event and saved it for now. In place of their monthly meeting, Pam and Lisa (co-founders of the group) wanted us to be able to get-together and enjoy each other and our survivorship  I was able to meet a couple more people so I'm glad I went. Thanks Shawn for going with me. It meant a lot!

CELEBRATION OF SURVIVORS!

Host : FM Breast Friends Support Group

When : Wednesday, October 3 at 6:00 PM

Where : Ho Do Lounge - Stokers Room

             101 Broadway

             Fargo, ND 58102

Message From Host : 

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month and a chance to Celebrate our status of Survivors! . We will not be having a Support Group Meeting in October - instead we have decided to treat you to a night and a chance to enjoy each other and Embrace the friendships that we share!

We hope all of you will join us for a fun night! Please wear Pink - we will be having a photograph taken at 6:45 pm   

They had a bar with a group tab and some amazing appetizers. Being almost the only one NOT drinking, I ordered a pitcher of lemonade. Which Shawn and I teased that they must have freshly squeezed since it took forever for them to get it! Who knew I could be such a difficult non-drinker! LOL All the ladies were so much fun to visit with. It is awesome to be able to swap stories with those that have experienced similar life adventures. 

We also got some group pictures. It was a lot of fun! Here's everyone in the group that made it up this evening. 

I'll POST this one when they send it out!

Then we did SURVIVOR pictures. There were too many of us so we broke up in smaller groups. Here's those of us that are 2 years and under Survivors! Aren't we cute?! 

Chemo Hats Service

Our Stake Relief Society had their annual Stake Women's Conference on September 14th. Every year, they plan a Service Project to participate in. Last year I helped with it and really enjoyed it. This year, Sister Z called me back in July to throw around ideas. At the time I was going through Chemotherapy. Obviously, baldness and chemo was on my brain (literally). I suggested that we could make Chemo hats. Even though it didn't go with their "theme" for the evening of service, Teri sent out an email to the women of the Stake with a few Chemo cap patterns that I had sent her.She let them know that if they wanted to make some, we would donate them to the Roger Maris Cancer Center in September. As the Friday night evening of service drew near, plans changed a bit and they did (along with lots of other things) make a few chemo caps that night. BUT sisters from all over the Stake had taken upon them the challenge in their spare time leading up to the Conference as well. It turns out that our LDS Fargo Stake Sisters had made 57 chemo hats to donate! How awesome is that?

Teri met me up at the Roger Maris Cancer Center to donate them this morning. So fun! As the weather is getting colder here in Fargo, we hope they will warm those that choose them as they are going through Chemo.

Here's the links that I sent to Teri back in July. 

"This is more of what I like to wear. I think they are the comfy-est and I can sleep in them or wear them out in public without people seeing my bald head. 

Head Huggers

Quick and Easy Fleece Beanie

Creative Kindness Easy Hat

Kindness Hat with lots of variations"

Hope Soars Cancer Dinner

At my LiveStrong class, they mentioned this Picnic that was being put on for Cancer Survivors and their families tonight out at Trollwood in Moorhead. Brett is out of town but Robbie offered that her family would go with me if I wanted to go. So.. we braved it. I'm so glad we went! It was a lot of fun. 

We met the Stephens there in time to see them blowing up the Hot Air Balloons. The kids were so excited! Unfortunately, the famous Fargo wind picked up and this is as high as they ever got them before they took them down. At least we got to see them. When we checked in, they had a drawing for a chance to win a ride on them at a later date. How cool would that be?

Inside, they had a few information booths from the embrace program @ Sanford Health. Everyone got a Livestrong bracelet and got to tie a ribbon on the hot air balloon (out of fabric) that will hang in the Sanford Hospital. They also had a guest speaker that is comical and sings beautifully. The kids were running like crazy out in the open field having a blast so we only heard the parts that she sang. But what a great way to celebrate survivorship then through humor and music!
For dinner, they had pulled perk sandwiches, beans, cookies and drinks. It was really good! Then we met up with some of my LiveStrong friends. Robbie, Liberty and I chatted with Denise and Kiona before they left. Liberty loves Denise! She thinks she is so funny! When the Stephens had to take off, the kids and I went to look for Katelyn (my awesome instructor) and Jennifer and her family. We took the chance to get a group shot. Glory hopped right into Katelyn's arms for the picture. How cute!

The kids absolute favorite part of the night was the Golf Cart ride back to the van! LOL They had them available at the door of the building and the guy offered. The temperature had dropped significantly and we had parked out pretty far so it actually worked out well. The kids giggled the whole time! One problem now though-- they all think we should buy a golf cart! LOL Silly kids! Thanks a lot Embrace and Sanford!

Happy PINK Stuff!

In my fabric shopping lately, I have come across a new obsession. Not sure what to do with it but isn't it so fun! I'm sure I'll find something great to make with it! I'm so excited! 

Also, next month is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. So lots of stores are selling Breast cancer stuff- bags, socks, necklaces, window stickers, shoelaces, nail stickers, you name it. What can I say... I'm a collector!

Happy Pink Stuff!

Business as Usual?

I am officially three weeks out from my bilateral mastectomy! Can you believe that? I remember reading blogs where they would write concerns before their surgery, the experience of the day [usually written by someone else] and then whoala a month has passed. WHAT? What happened? What have you been up to? How was the pain? What did you do? I need details people! Then magically that's exactly what I did. It must be an unspoken cancer thing. LOL [OK. Maybe I've written some things but it doesn't feel like it]
Regardless though, business is getting back to usual, I think.

* I am completely off any pain meds including IBprophen. My chest still aches once in a while but a hot pad at bedtime has helped. And it gets better everyday! Hallelujah!
* Brett is back full time to work. In fact he is out of town for a week. (More info on that later.) But he was so great to stay home full time for a week and then work part-time for a little after that. I am very lucky to have a such a great supportive Hubby! XOXO
* I am back to being Chore Master around the house. Once I was up and at 'em [since Monday is bedroom day I am guessing that was maybe by the 13th?], I told the kids it was time to clean bedrooms "Mom's way". I got a lot of eye rolls and whining. LOL
* I am occasionally trying to sleep on my side. I am a huge side/stomach sleeper. Fortunately, I have adjusted adequately at the back-sleeping thing with the aid of lots of pillows. But I miss my side and tummy! ;( However, every once in a while in the last week, I can prop myself just so that I can rest on my side. Anything rubbing against my chest is still a little irritating. Hope that passes eventually!
* Aunt Flo (my nickname for my Menstrual Cycle) has come back to visit. {Sunday, August 19th} And unfortunately it's the pre-IUD one! Which sucks! I had forgotten that this Aunt Flo was the reason I got the IUD in the first place. I think I lost more blood in an hour than I did in my whole bi-lateral mastectomy. Grrrrrr! and I know TMI! LOL Not sure what to do about this business! [I won't ever be able to have another hormone based IUD ever again! bugger!] Now Brett and I will have to be very careful because Fertile Mertile is back in business! Joy!
* I am starting to wear regular shirts. No longer am I limited to my 6 zip-up shirts I bought especially for after surgery. Little by little I have been able to lift my arms higher and higher even though it pulls a little and makes me nervous. It still is a bit painful but I have been able to put stretchy shirts over my head. I can pull on a sports bra as well. Although even wearing a larger size puts a lot of pressure on my chest by the end of the day. Someday that will go away as well, right?
* Finally, my Life Coordinator, my friends and long-distance family (Thanks Davis') have been so gracious to feed my family. But now I am back to making my family a hot meal for dinner all by myself. OK.. not really.. Luckily for me, my freezer is full of ready-to-eat/ just-heat-up meals for me to choose from. Not sure I will ever be able to go back! LOL But that in itself is BUSINESS AS USUAL!

Ready, Set, Go Pink! Fingers

The Zollinger girls came over today with a little awesome treat for me. They have recently come across these cute little nail things from Jamberry. A lady they know that used to live here and has recently moved back sells them. Teri found some Breast Cancer ones and got them for me. How sweet is that!? Even better- they came over, visited and put them on for me! Thanks Teri and Kate! Just luv you gals!

How cute are those? With my leftovers, I'm totally gonna do my toes this week. So fun!

Later I even did my toes. So cute! Thanks again Teri- they are so fun!

Comments about the Cancer Blog (38)

* Kellie Brady- (posted this on her blog) Praying for a Good Reason
Our Ward was saddened to hear that one of our sweet, very young, Sisters is in a battle of Breast Cancer. I was shocked and saddened by the news. Our family, especially Morgan who loves this sister's oldest daughter, has been saying many prayers and reminding us to keep the Seamons family in our prayers. Mike and I have also been making sure that this wonderful family has been in our "husband and wife" bed time prayers as well.
This sister is one of the most compassionate sisters that I have ever meet! She is sweet and loving and loves a good Partay! She is amazing at hosting parties!
So explains the new blog back ground. Shay got me into blogging and showed me that you can print blogs into a book. I am blessed to know Shay and know that she will BEAT THIS THING AND FIGHT LIKE A GIRL!
So I am choosing to be on Team Shay! If you need anything girl let me know, and remember to tell your life coordinator that I clean toilets and anything else that is in need of!
Lots of love to the Seamons Family!
{For my family and friends, please say a special prayer for this truly amazing, giving and compassionate family, thank you a million times over}
*Shauna Seamons- Shay, I was so glad to be able to read your blog. You and your family have an amazing attitude. I love it. I liked seeing you with all the different wigs on. You could pull any of those looks off with great style. One of them even looked like your own hair. As for the MRI- I totally know how you feel. They say it doesn’t hurt but I remember thinking that I felt worse after the MRI then when I first laid down on that cold table. Mine took about an hour and I was in such pain with all those loud noises and being a bit claustrophobic I tried to sing primary songs to myself and think of all the scriptures I had memorized to get my mind off of anything but what I was going through. Then I started thinking of Christ and all He went through. Instead of doing like I did, try to get my mind off of it, I realized that He actually concentrated on it, focused on each one of our pains and sorrows, illnesses, and sins so He would know exactly what it is like for each and every one of us. That realization when it hit me, really amazed me and I am so thankful that He gets it completely. Slowly I am realizing more and more how Powerful and Mighty He is, how much He really can do for you and me and I am thankful, ever thankful for that. I love you Shay.  Shauna
*Michelle Honek- Hi Shay,  Yes, I would love to read your blog, then I won’t have to keep bothering Brett to see how you are doing J I know your diagnosis has put you and your family in a whirlwind right now, but it will get better. The first month or so was the worst for me, mainly because there are so many appointments, tests, information to digest, decisions to make, and of course sharing the news with family and friends. Once you decide on your course of treatment, things will settle down. Please let me know if you have any questions or if there is anything I can do to help you through this. I had a close friend who was diagnosed a year before me, I can’t tell you how much she helped me each step of the way. I know you are blessed with a wonderful support system…..stay strong, you will beat this. You are in my daily prayers. Hugs, Michele
 P.S. Call anytime you want to chat or we can always meet up and leave Brett home with the kids
AND
 I read your blog last night….you were right, you are very funny, I guess that’s who Brett gets it from J You have a great attitude, keep it up!! P.S. You look “great” in all the wigs; I wish I could have pulled all those different looks off.
* Amber - has left a new comment on your post "ClickClickBeepBeepHonkHonk":
Oh my goodness. I haven't laughed so hard in awhile. Is it wrong to find amusement in this?
* Elisa Hunt - has left a new comment on your post "ClickClickBeepBeepHonkHonk":
Don't forget the 45 minutes of jackhammer sound. Don't move! Is that an itch?.....
(By the way, this is Elisa. But I accepted your email invite logged in under Chris, so I guess it will forever like that).
* Jace Denman- Its Jace from Brett's office. I just wanted to ask to be added to your blog list so I can read it, you and another friend have made their blog private recently. I would make mine private too, but well I would need more than my parents to read it, ha!
I hope you are having a good week under the circumstances. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Let me know of you guys need anything!
AND
Trust me I can handle it (reading the blog). My mom has been through this and I also talked a lot about this with Michele last year.
To be quite honest when Brett gave us the news at work it literally felt like a kick in the gut. You and Brett are such good role models for not just your kids but for your friends and family. I was bummed at the thought of you guys leaving for another country but was happy for Brett's promotion. I am glad we can be here to support you and your family at this time and I know you will get through this just fine. And you will educate people along the way so there is always a way to look at this positively.
Well I will try and chat with you more later, and thanks for the add on the blog. Already caught up on some posts to get up to date! Jace
*Glenda Crump- Your family blog is so cute, I read it and looked at the pictures yesterday! The blog at the top neither I nor Krista could read since it says you have to be invited...can you help? Thanks, Glenda
*Shauna- Shay, I have a google account and tried to read your blog but it said I had not been invited to read it. So if you updated it with info from the MRI yesterday I would love to hear about it. YOU are constantly in my prayers and I just am feeling like you are going to beat this thing. So keep me posted. If I need to do something different to be able to read your blog, please let me know.
Did you get my little Easter package I sent out to you guys. I told Rock to watch for it.
Love you Shay, Shauna
*Treston and Shelley has left a new comment on your post "TEAM SHAY: My Wig Lady":
I like them all! They each make you look totally different. Crazy. How fun... I might go do that! ;)
* Amber Hoffman has left a new comment on your post "Wahoo! The MRI Results":
Can you hear my WAHOO? can you see me jumping for joy? You should because I am loud and high. WAHOO!!!!!!!
*Kristen Tucker has left a new comment on your post "Wahoo! The MRI Results":
Wahooooooooo! Love ya!
*Treston and Shelley has left a new comment on your post "To Boob or not to Boob? That's the question!": Shay, you crack me up and make me cry!
*Lisa McKee- Shay, Thanks for the invite and thanks so much for writing about your experiences. You look so good in those wigs. Who knew hair could totally alter your appearance? You could be a new woman every day of the week:) My heart goes out to you Shay. You sharing your thoughts through your writing is very helpful to understanding what you guys are going through. I am so sorry this is your struggle. I pray that the Lord will bring your peace through the ups and downs of the experience. I would be happy to watch your kids during any of your appointments at your house or mine. Your girls play so good with Becky. I am free on Wednesday mornings/ early afternoon and can pick up your girls on Tuesday and Thursday about noon after I pick up Becky from preschool. I really can watch them anytime on Tuesday or Thursday. In the summer they can all come over when schools out. It works out great that we have kids that are about the same age. Let me know. Talk soon
* Cheri Davis- Hey Shay- Thanks so much for getting me signed up for your blog. I have been reading it a lot and it makes me laugh and sometimes cry but I think about your quote so the crying is very brief :). I do have to say I was with Liberty with the head shaving experience. It made me the saddest. But you are inspiring and make me look at each day different. I just wanted to let you know how amazing you are. And I love the wigs. I love the brown one. You look awesome! Keep it up girl! Love you lots! Cheri
*Christine has left a new comment on your post "Look Good.... Feel Better!":
Seriously, Shay. If anyone can turn breast cancer into a wardrobe theme for the entire family, it's you. Hilarious! You always have loved a good theme. Honestly, with all the things you've made, you should start a business - you can call it "In the Pink!"
*Kiley has left a new comment on your post "I'm in Charge Hair! (I mean Here- lol)":
I agree! You have a beautiful bald head! You look great Shay and I am so inspired by you. I love the fact that you will take charge! I love you!
*Brady Bunch, ND has left a new comment on your post "Love Notes":
She is so sweet! My Morgan just saw your Mother's day blog and she said " Shay doesn't let anything get her down does she Mom. I liked seeing her tonight at the Cook's" Shay you are amazing!
* Becky and Todd has left a new comment on your post "Love Notes":
Thanks for sharing....so glad we can get a glimpse into what you and your family is experiencing. So very wonderful to see you last night. We sure love you guys!
* Brady Bunch, ND has left a new comment on your post "Date with Space(wo)man: Chemo Day #2": Kristen is awesome! Pretty scary. I am glad that Kristen was there to make the nurses move. I will volunteer to be your picture taker if you would like. I love taking pictures!
* Amber has left a new comment on your post "Date with Space(wo)man: Chemo Day #2": I just love you guys. I can't believe how long Kristen's resume is getting. Quilter, Life coordinator, Cancer patient Life Saver. She might be overly qualified for everything. I can't wait to see you girls. Next month. I better get some pink.

*Wrights- has left a new comment on your post "Date with Space(wo)man: Chemo Day #2":
Julie and I wish you all the best. We wish we were there to offer support to you and your family. But you are often in our thoughts and prayers.
* Robbie Stephens- has left a new comment on your post "Date with Space(wo)man: Chemo Day #2":
So I'm finally commenting :) Guess I should say something huh. I love how you find humor in everything! You go girl!
*Lana Seamons- Dear Shay: I'm still working on how to be able to write back to you on your blog. Until then, just a quick e-mail. You are a terrific writer. It's fun to read your blog. Also, you have a great attitude about the challenge you are facing. What an inspiration!!! You know our prayers are with you and we love you.
*Shauna Seamons has left a new comment on your post "Mouth Issues":
Shay, I am so glad they were able to give you something for those sores. I can't even imagine how bad that must have been. I hope they are clearing up. I fasted for you yesterday and hope you know you are in my prayers everyday. When is your next chemo apt? Keep up the positive attitude my friend. I love you. Shauna
*Heather Swanson- has left a new comment on your post "My "little" bit of cancer!":
Shay--you have such a great positive attitude about your new "adventure" that I don't know how you do it:) You are truly an inspiration to me!! Sure miss you!!!!!!!
*Amber has left a new comment on your post "A Prayer in Each Square":
That looks amazing. I have heard about this and can't wait to see it (Cancer Quilt) in person. You are an amazing woman.
*Heather Swanson- has left a new comment on your post "A Prayer in Each Square":
The quilt is so beautiful!! I am so jealous---my favorite color is red too:) Prayers are continuing to come your way via WA!!

*Amber has left a new comment on your post "Sexy Legs":
I love white legs. They are the new sexy. At least that is what I tell myself. Ha ha
* Shauna Seamons has left a new comment on your post "Sexy Legs":
Wow, what a bonus. I wish my legs were ever that smooth. I also love the red shoes. All women should have at least one pair of red shoes. I also love the new wigs. Both the long blonde one and the cute red head. YOU sure can pull that off. I love you with red hair. It seem to fit.
Love you. Shauna
* Treston and Shelley has left a new comment on your post "Wife #8: Short Brown Bob":
I just read your whole blog again and I have just a few things to say:
1. You are INCREDIBLE!
2. You have an INCREDIBLE family!
3. Your friends are INCREDIBLE!
4. Your attitude is INCREDIBLE!
5. You look INCREDIBLE in any hat you wear (jealous...)
6. Your legs are INCREDIBLE!
Seriously, I love you and am glad that you have such good friends and the sweetest kiddos and husband to take care of you!
* Robbie Stephens has left a new comment on your post "Call me Metal Mouth with a Bad Attitude":
Ahhh. Next time, I'll have to come over and we can be grumps together. . .If you have 2 grumps in one room, does that cancel out the grumpiness like 2 negatives make a positive? Seriously though, we love you. You and your family are amazing.
*Shauna said......I am glad the cards make you laugh. I just feel that is the least I can do as part of TEAM SHAY. But you have to know that as I attend the temple I always put you and Brett's names on the prayer roll and I also pray for you daily. YOu are on my mind, in my heart, in my prayers, and I speak of your strength frequently as I talk with others. You go girl. Love you.
* Amber has left a new comment on your post "Follow-up Ultrasound":
Hooray. I'm glad you are getting pictures with everyone. I think you have touched the lives of every nurse, docter, etc. that you have come in contact with brought this experience
* Amber has left a new comment on your post ""I'm Gonna Love You Through It"":
I wish I was there with you. I wish I could do more for you. I love you shay and appreciate the awesome attitude you have had through this. But I think we should all get some tattoos (like the guy in the video). Cancer sucks !!!!!
* Woodruffs has left a new comment on your post "Mini Freak Out & Goodbye Boobs!":
Shay, our continued prayers are with you and your sweet family! Your faith and courage take my breath away. I was sitting in a waiting room yesterday and saw this quote posted on the front desk of the Utah Cancer Center..."Once you choose hope...anything's possible." We LOVE you!
* Amber has left a new comment on your post "Under the Knife":
I am. So glad things went well. You have been in my thoughts and prayers all week. I can't wait to talk to you and see you next week.
* Heather Swanson has left a new comment on your post "Under the Knife":
I have been thinking about you all the time hoping things are going good for you and your family. I am glad to see things went good with your surgery. I will continue to keep you in my prayers
*Christine has left a new comment on your post "This Room is Paid for: Coming Home":
Thanks for posting all this, Shay. So happy to see a picture of my smiling friend. Wish I could be there to help and visit but glad you have our Fargo family to take care of you. Love you Lady!
* Lisa Mckee- has left a new comment on your post "CANCER FREE!!!!":

Yeah Shay how wonderful!! WAHOO! WAHOO! That is awesome!!!!! I haven't checked your blog since before we moved-our office had kind of been under construction. It was so neat to see your cancer free blog and how much I have missed. I can't believe all you have been through in the last few months. It is amazing what you have been through and your wonderful optimism through it all. You really are my hero! Thanks for being such a wonderful example of making the best of a very hard(and yes I don't have any idea how hard) trial. You, your family and the rest of TEAM Shay all are just amazing. Thanks for sharing your blog with my family. It is wonderful to be a witness to your miracle. Love you bunches! Lisa

Other Thoughtful Emails Along the Way (28)

I know that it's getting to be a very lengthy list but I am really touched by all the emails so I want them written down somewhere. Here's a few more we have received along our journey:
*Tanya Abraham- Words cannot even begin to express how I feel about your email. I am deeply saddened to hear your news, but know that our God is a GREAT God who can do ALL THINGS and He allows things to happen in our lives that seem insurmountable and just plain wrong not to punish us, but to help each of us GROW and become more like Him and to also show other people Him. Everything we experience/go through helps at least one other person along the way or at some point in our lives, even if we are no longer here physically. You are an amazing family and are in our thoughts and prayers every single day – please, let us know if there is ANYTHING we can do, but no, Shay, I will not shave my head for you. . . ;) Love you guys!!  P.S. I forgot to tell you that YES, I want to be part of the distribution list for the blog.
*Danica Pettit- Thank you so much for including me on your e-mail, I LOVE your attitude, makes me miss you and your family even more. You and Brett are a great team and I'm so glad you have each other. We love you and support you, will definitely keep you in our prayers. PLEASE include me on the blog and let me know if you ever need my assistance with anything! LOVE you so much!!
*Faith Friederichs- Great news Shay! Ok, I am just trying to keep it light! And by great news I mean we get to keep you in our lives a little bit longer! I would love to keep updated on your blog. Steve was absolutely heart broken when I told him, he loves you guys so much. You are one of the only people who have anything to do with him at church and he would do anything for you guys! We are here praying for your family and your health. Love and Life
*Haylie, Matt and Ali- Sweet Shay, You can do this! If anybody can make it through the big "bumps" in life it is you. You got me through my first few years in Fargo and helped to shape the woman I am today. I love your passion for life, your need to decorate for every season, your love affair with fabric, and your strength. Know that Matt and I are here for you and your family, whatever you need whenever you need it please call us up. We are at you and your family's disposal. Know that we are here to laugh and cry with. If you need to rant, rant away my friend, if you need to go into denial for a bit, call me up and we can go shopping, crafting, to a movie, you name it. Don't take this the wrong way, but the past few months have been a bummer for me, we seem to be moving apart and while I know that that is the nature of the beast with so many new people moving in and needing to be befriended and a new baby for me to love on, I still feel depressed. So, even though we seem to be moving in different life circles please know that you are and will always be my most cherished friend. If there is anything that I can do to ease your burdens, even if it just a teeny tiny bit please let me. Matt and I love you and are rooting for you. If you need inspiration visit this blog http://www.lilblueboo.com/. She has been going through cancer and has blogged about it all (along with some other stuff).  Hang in there my friend. You are in our prayers!
*Mrs. Molstre (Victoria's Kindergarten Teacher)- Brett and Shay, Wow what a shocker! I thought about you all day and I wasn’t sure how to respond. I too have had some of your same thoughts as I had a “bump” checked out two weeks ago (maybe we were even there at the same time!). My outcome was different and so you are obviously thinking and feeling a storm of things. I greatly appreciate you keeping me updated so I can be ready for anything Victoria may need during this time. I checked with our counselor and she was able to locate a book call Once Upon A Hopeful Night and it is about a mother who gets cancer. It talks about treatment and fighting the battle. Would you like our school counselor or myself to read this with her? It’s also on Amazon for like $7 too if you would like to look into it for yourselves. Shay, you of all people will be the most amazing cancer patient. I will diligently pray for strength, patience, good news for you and your family. Please let me know if you need anything at all ( I am sure you have had a gazillion offers J). I would love to help out with meals or taking care of kids if need be.
*Heather Parry- Oh Shay my friend, I am so sorry to hear of your news. I have thought a lot about our days at the day care lately. I miss you and have thought of you often. I am sorry I have not been a good friend & kept better in touch. You are an amazing strong woman, I have complete faith in the Lord's plan. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers as you and your family go through this trial.  I have to admit to you that I cried for you while reading it. Then laughed for you as you talked about the truth of it all. I am grateful that I was included on your email list, that I will be given the opportunity to pray for you. I would love to be kept updated. We love you and miss you.
*Angie Kallmeyer- Hi Shay, I was at Patty Ransoms last night working on a quilt and she shared your news with me...then Telindalee forwarded me your email. I just wanted you to know that I think your an amazing courageous woman! I love your attitude, and if anyone can handle this, you can. Not that it means that much coming from me, but I just felt like I should tell you :) We will be praying for you and your family, and if there is ever anything I can do, please don't hesitate to call. Love, Angie
*Garold Seamons- Got your email that Shay sent. Sounds like quite an ordeal. We are praying for your family. I know that the Lord will answer your prayers as well as ours. I guess the tough part comes in waiting it out. But the Lord is looking out for you and your family. Love, dad
*Kent and Glenda Crump- Sheleray,We just got back from Utah last night and we were lucky to be able to spend time with all Kents brothers and sisters. We miss everyone so much! We are sad to hear about your breast cancer and just want you to know our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! This is news no one wants to hear and we hope you know we support and love you and your family!Please continue to keep us updated if you can, we want to know how your doing!!! Good Luck in all your challenges and know that we LOVE YOU!!!
*Barb and Steve Taylor- Shay, We were so surprised to hear your news. You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. We would like to be able to read your blog if that is ok with you. We hope you know how much we all care about you.
*Lori, Louie, and fam- Dear Shay, Brett, and kids,We love you! Our thoughts and prayers are with you and we wish we were closer and could help more. Please let us know if we can do anything - we have even saved a few sky miles if you need Lori to fly out at some point to help. We appreciate your strength, example, and testimony. Love, Lori, Louie, and fam P.S. - We would appreciate being invited to your blog for updates.
*Rachel Crump- Hey cousin, It's been a long time. I just wanted to let you know how much your great attitude means to me. I know how hard it can be to keep your head up during hard times. I try my best to keep a positive outlook on my health issues too. I have been on dialysis for almost 5 1/2 years now. I have been on the waiting list since Dec. 2007 in TX. Just this past summer I felt the spirit really strongly telling me I should move back to UT and get on the list because I'd have a much better and quicker chance of getting one there. So in Sep. I packed up and left leaving my dad and Glenda behind. And Jamie and her family which I took care of her two most wonderful boys almost everyday. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I still wonder to myself to this day if it was the right thing or not but I'm always comforted by the spirit that reassures me I'm in the right place. Even though now 6 months later, still not on the waiting list in UT. I have also come to some bumps in the road. In order to be placed on the waiting list, other than needing a kidney, you need to be in the best health possible so I have to stay up on all examinations. So in Nov. I went in for my annual PAP and was notified that it was abnormal, going in with a positive attitude I thought well maybe its wrong or something. Next thing I knew I was in for a biopsy in my cervix. Results took about a week. So 9 looong days later I get a call saying that it was in the most advanced stage of PRECANCER and I was scared to death but relieved at the same time. It sounded scary but I was so grateful that we had caught this in time....otherwise I would have to be on dialysis and chemo at the same time. So i was able to go in for one procedure called a LEEP and they pretty much remove part of your cervix. Another long week later I was given the news that it was successful. So relieved. But not out of the woods yet. So i have to keep up on it every six months. And being a dialysis/ kidney patient I am 3 times more likely to end up with any type of cancer than someone with no kidney problems, because my immune system is so low. I had to stay strong especially being in a different state than my parents. So I did and kept my head up as much as I could and to me that positive attitude is always key.I think that my positive attitude is what helped me come out on top beating this and getting on with my life. So I just want you to know that because of your positive outlook that makes you strong and because of that you WILL get through this and come out on top and win the battle. I love you and wish you well. You are more than welcome to email me or anything anytime. I will be praying for you. Keep your head up. -Rachel Crump
*Deanne Stevenson- Thinking of you lots. If there is anything i can do please let me know. If you need help watching the kids this week I am in town until Friday. Just know I love ya.
* Cheryl Oster- Hi Shay, Just a note to say Hang in there-you are a strong and vibrant lady! If there is anything I can do for you and your family don't hesitate to ask!! I will be thinking of you
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Hi Shay, Hope you are doing OK-You are in my thoughts and prayers. I would like you send me an invite to your blog so I can keep in touch. Remember if you need anything, do hesitate to ask. I would be glad to take the kids on a weekend they would have a blast playing with Molly! Cheryl
* Cheri, Dixon and family- Hi Brett and Shay, I didn't want you guys to think I hadn't read this email or that our family didn't care but I wanted to give you guys a little space because you were probably overwhelmed with people responding. Wow! I could not believe what I was reading. I (we as a family) just want you to know how much we love you guys. You really are an inspiring family. I also want you to know that our family will do ANYTHING we can to help. That includes flying up there at a moments notice to help with your kids, clean house, run errands. We will have garage sales and sell lemonade to earn money for medical expenses, run 5k runs and so on. We will do pretty much anything (but shave my head.) LOL. I will leave that to Shay. I am being honest. As we fasted as a family today I was impressed with the faith you guys show. We will continue to pray for you and really just hope you know how much we support you. Please give us the blog information so we can be included on that. How grateful we are for the gospel and the love that our Savior has for each of us and that he guides our lives and knows us personally. We love you and you truly are amazing!! GO TEAM SHAY!!! Love, Cheri, Dixon and family.
* Lisa McKee and Fam- Hi Shay and family, I have been meaning to write you guys but it has been hard for me to know what to say. I think I have been in some shock about your diagnosis. I just think that if I pretend it isn't there that it will go away. I guess that you guys aren't the only ones in denial-sorry. I am so sorry that this is something you guys are facing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you both. I know this may sound strange but we have been experimenting with our juicer lately and I have some pretty healthy vegetable juices that may help you Shay if you are interested. They are really helping me feel great. I remember one juice recipe says it is supposed to help with your red blood cell count. They don't all taste good. I guess healthy doesn't always mean yummy:) Anyway I know it sounds exciting but if you want to give them a try let me know and we can have a juicing party! We are still excited to have you guys over for dinner but I forgot what day. Was it the 20th? 21st? Would you mind reminding me? thanks: Talk to you soon, Lisa
*Sanders family- Invite please and thank you! We love you and are praying, praying, praying! Big hugs from the Sanders family!!
* Kiley Finch- Wow! What a shocker! Let me just say I have been thinking about all of you the past few days since I heard the news. I am sending my love to all of you through my thoughts & prayers. I do have to say that I think the humor you have is awesome! I can’t even begin to imagine the different emotions you are feeling. Shay, I know you are a strong woman and that you will get through this with the support of your family, friends, and of course God! PLEASE put me on your blog list and here’s my current email address. I know today you are having your MRI. I hope all goes well. Love you! Love, Kiley
* Shelley Sadler- Hey Shay, I've been wanting to call you to chat, but I got your # from your mom the day before you sent out the first email. I was going to ask you all about Columbia and see if you were coming to the quilt retreat. Then in the email you said you would rather us read the blog, rather than having to repeat everything over and over again. So, I've been hesitant. I am so sorry to hear about the breast cancer, and I can say that you are the most upbeat person about cancer that I have ever met. You have always amazed me with all that you do concerning mommy-hood, crafting, and being such a good wife, and this just seals the deal that you are the most incredible woman I know! This might be the dumbest question EVER with all that is going on in your life, but when will we see you again? I know you said you will be having treatments and chemo, etc., so I'm not saying I want you to jump in the car right now and drive down here, but I was getting excited for you to hopefully come to the quilt retreat!! I guess I can probably find out the answers to my questions by reading your blog. :) Know that you are in my prayers and that I love you and your cutest family! Oh, a boy in Preston's class and a girl in Brigham's class are named Liberty and Justice and I just barely realized they are siblings. Makes me think of you guys!I love you Shay! love, Shelley Oh, p.s. can I get an invite to your blog? Thanks! Oh, p.p.s. My 7 year old neighbor lost all her hair to some strange condition. Bald is the new blonde. You'll look awesome! ;)
* Jill Erickson and family - Can I get an invite to your blog again? My email is ..... Just letting you know you are in our thoughts and prayers. I am glad you might be in the ward longer :) There is always a bright side.
* Elisa Hunt- Hi Shay, Thanks for the message. If there's one thing I know about being in the middle of medical things, it's that life takes a weird turn. So, I am not the least bit worried about not getting the message right on time. You have bigger (and smaller!) things to worry about. Anyway, thanks for the email. I'd like to sign up for your blog, as I want to hear what's going on.

I was going to give you a call the other night, but

a. it was FHE night

b. Robbie had said something like you had been on the phone all day

So, I've wanted to give you a call, but I didn't want to be 4,478 phone call for the day.

I'm really sorry that you're going through this. Humor is great medicine. But you're inevitably have those less than humorous days. If you need someone to rant to, someone who's not 100% in the situation, I'm happy to be a listening ear. I haven't had breast cancer, but I am semi-skilled in hanging out at hospitals (having had more than my fair share of surgeries, illnesses, and a near death experience. Long story there).

Perhaps you address this on your blog, and if so, just tell me to read it. I'm going to ask you probably the same questions as everyone else. If you don't feel like answering these directly, then hey, you have some fodder for your blog.

1. When do you start treatment? And a related follow-up, who is coordinating meals?

2. Hair loss? I know, sometimes a big thing (big for my friend) and for others not a big thing (not a big deal for my aunt). If so, I am scarf-dealer extraordinaire, as the Middle East is a primo spot for scarves. You just say the word, and I'll have a shipment here before you know it.

I'd ask about lymph node involvement and that sort of thing, but I'm guessing you're waiting on your MRI results. Anyway, hugs to you. Thanks for thinking of including us. Yes, we want to read about what's going on. But we also want to help. I'm 100% the person who doesn't like to ask for help. (Broken foot here, single parenting for a while, no no, I don't need anything. I can shovel a foot of snow...it's fine...really). That's just how I roll. I get the sense that you're the same way. But I would like to help in whatever way I can. Sooooo....if you think of anything, please ask. Otherwise, I will invent my own ways and you might not like them very much (bahahaha).
* Kathryn Morgenegg-  Hey lady! I'm so sorry about your news! We have kept you in our prayers since we found out. I have talked to your mom. I know that you don't want a lot of phone calls so I will stick to email. I tried to log on to your new blog and it says that I don't have access. I do have a Google account. If you could give us access that would be great! We love you! -Kathryn
* Tiffany Sanders-  I've been working on contriving some great something for you. That's vague right?! Well, that's because that's how it's been...flopping around like a fish out of water thinking of something great to do for YOU! Yet, here I am, days later with nothing to show and I'm beginning to feel that anything would be better than nothing...even if it's not great!! :) Aww, life.

Here's the thing. You amaze me. I have always treasured our friendship. Your zest for life is contagious...even when you are blue (I only say that because I see you rolling your eyes, I hear you interjecting)! You love life. You cherish the gifts the Lord has given you. You share your hope and heart with all who are available. You are a remarkable, beautiful woman. Now, here you are in this crazy situation...breast cancer. I can still hear your voice on the phone, "I know it's nothing." And yet it is. Boo. Yet, even though I want to wallow in sorrow, rip my garments and spread dirt all over myself crying to the Lord...why?! why?! (that would be a dramatic and frightening scenario, so I'll spare everyone!), I can't bring myself to behave that way. Quite honestly, I can hardly mutter the words, why her God? Because somewhere inside I am assured that this too is for His glory. To reveal the love of the Father, the comfort of the Spirit. I know that you are chosen, chosen to reveal him to the world. Be it the world of family, friends, church, Fargo, North Dakota, the Midwest...the list goes on. Your amazing ability to look at life and gird up under it's challenges is breathtaking and inspiring. Your ability to laugh and find the humor in procedure and pain is courageous. You, my friend, are a light in a dark world. Salt and light.

I am grateful our silly husbands spent all day in the cities at the beginning of our time so that I could know you. That's why they became friends right?! For us! I truly can't find the words to say how much I wish I were near. But, I'm not. Boo again. Know that you and your sweet family our in our prayers. I love you and continue to be encouraged by who you are.
*Alma Christensen-  Just heard the news. One adventure that you never plan for. Know many who have conquered and I'm praying that you will too. Love your family and know you are in our thoughts and prayers. Alma and Family
*Kelsi Conroy- Is it too late to be apart of the blog? I just checked my hotmail account (after not checking for way too long as usual) and I was stunned by your news. Not that there is a particular type of person to get cancer, but you are one of the last people I would have expected. You are so lively and bubbly - it just doesn't seem to go with your personality. But I see from your email, you are not letting it cramp your style anyways - you're still as lively and bubbly as ever! I know it is harder than you make it look, but you are doing a good job of reassuring everyone.
When my family found out my dad had a very aggressive and advanced Leukemia, I remember going through the same cycle of feelings - stunned, so not real at first, then when it finally sunk in I got angry, and then after that I got sad and a little delirious (you know, tears and laughter at the same time, that sort of thing). I can imagine what your family is going through right now and I will pray for strength for your husband and comfort for your children. When my family was going through it, we weren't much comforted by people telling us it would be okay (I wanted to yell "Yes, I know it will be okay in the end and there's always a silver lining, BUT I STILL REALLY REALLY HATE THIS RIGHT NOW !!!"). However, I remember a few instances of people I ran into who didn't try to tell us it would be okay. They knew better because they had a similar experience and there was a shared understanding that went beyond words. Sometimes I can feel isolated when I'm having a hard time but this reminded me I was in good company. I also think it was meaningful because there was a moment where I felt like our spirits were communicating (not just our mouths). I hope you can have some of those moments too. Nothing like tragedy to strip everything away to uncover our spirits.
Anyways, sorry if that got too heavy. Just let me know if there is anything I can do. You are (or are about to) get very tied down in the business of getting healed (ahem...your team of doctors, your many many appts,...) so we know you're going to need an extra hand sometimes (and your husband will need a break too) soooooo you should really take me up on my offer. I know you have a ton of other friends and family who want to help so add me to the list :-)
Praying for you, Kelsi   P.S. Sorry this email got kinda long, but I figure this is payback for your long email (just kidding, I liked your email)!
*Robbie Stephens-  How are you? I love reading both your blogs. Your wisdom and humor are very good for me. Thanks for sharing your life with us. You don't know how it helps. Let me know if you need anything for the party or for next week. Love ya, Robbie
*Jenn Smith- SHAY!!!!  I couldn't believe my eyes when I was reading your email! I am SO sorry to hear you guys are going through this. Boobs-what a pain! But I also know how much the Lord loves you and your cute family and that all of this craziness will become beautiful blessings in time. Isn't that how life is? Doesn't Heavenly Father ask us to grow in the times when we have other things planned??? Oh, I love you, sweet friend. Please know that we have been praying and thinking about you guys every single day. I can't get ya out of my mind! You are a simply amazing woman and all that strength and sassiness I know you have in you is going to get you through this with a smile on your face. Thanks for your example and for including us on your journey. XOXOXOXOXOX Jenn
P.S. I have been trying to read both blogs for your updates but can't seem to get on. When you get a sec will you add .....@gmail to your list of peeps??? Please and Thanks. Love ya!
* Teri Zollinger- Shay, I just wanted you to know that you, and your family, are in my thoughts and prayers. Between a couple trips out of town and stake RS stuff, I haven't been to church forever, it seems like. I have really wanted to put my arms around you and let you know how much I appreciate you. You are one amazing women. You probably hear this a lot, but I really do want to know if there is anything you need that I can do ... other than pray!! I would love to help. Teri
*Kristie and Daisy Poulsen-  Wow lady,  This is no small nut shell, I always just seem to remember your b-day it just seems to be a day that sticks out to me, I always remember it as being the day that Daisy started to walk maybe that is why it sticks, it's been awhile since that happened.
She will be in Jr high in the fall and turning 13, she already acts like a teenager she doesn't need the number, I just pray daily to be a good mom and for her everyday.  She would get along well with Victoria as she loves art in all mediums, painting, drawing and sketching are her favorites, she has signed up for an art class in the fall and is super excited.  She would be in the photography class if 7th graders were allowed, she saved her money and bought a really nice camera and takes it everywhere, I love to encourage positive hobbies.
 Your kids sound amazing I can't believe that Glory is already 4 years old, wow has it really been that long since we have seen each other?  I am glad to hear that they are all doing well and Brett too!  Columbia, that is a huge step when the world is in such ciaos, did they ask you to go or did you sign up for the transfer?   I'm curious how does that work, since you are with the government is there housing like on a military base,  I just want you and your family to be safe while you are on this new adventure.
 How is the chemo going, and if you are willing to share is your cancer severe or did they catch it early enough that is more easily treatable? I am hoping that while it is a challenge in your life that you were blessed with the physical you had to have.
 I am so glad that I followed that prompting I had to write you as I love you and your family and want to be a help and support you in anyway that I can!
Take care and please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Luv ya!
*Tiffany Sanders- I just wanted to shoot you a quick email because I've been thinking about you.  Praying your recovery is nothing shy of miraculous.  Praying for the comfort of our Lord to be with you.  Praying you know the depth of His love for you in a new and unique way...today.  Praying that you feel the rich blessing of His grace. We love you and are praying with you!  Hugs, hugs, hugs!!! t.
P.S. I keep snickering through the Olympic games...every time I see Michael Phelps I think of Brett.  ;)